伯特兰·罗素/BertrandRussell
,inregretsforthegoodolddays,'sthoughtsmustbedirectedtothefuture,;one''semotionsusedtobemorevividthantheyare,andone',andifitisforgottenitwillprobablynotbetrue.
,andifyoucontinuetobeasinterestedinthemasyouwerewhentheywereyoung,youarelikelytobecomeaburdentothem,unlesstheyareunusuallycallous.
Idonotmeanthatoneshouldbewithoutinterestinthem,butone'sinterestshouldbecontemplativeand,ifpossible,philanthropic,,buthumanbeings,owingtothelengthofinfancy,findthisdifficult.
,-upchildrennottomakemistakes,bothbecausetheywillnotbelieveyou,,,suchasmakingthemanallowanceorknittingthemjumpers,youmustnotexpectthattheywillenjoyyourcompany.
,andhasachievedwhateverworkitwasinhimtodo,thefearofdeathissomewhatabjectandignoble.
Thebestwaytoovercomeit-soatleastitseemstome-istomakeyourinterestsgraduallywiderandmoreimpersonal,,narrowlycontainedwithinitsbanks,,thebanksrecede,thewatersflowmorequietly,andintheend,withoutanyvisiblebreak,theybecomemergedinthesea,,inoldage,canseehislifeinthisway,willnotsufferfromthefearofdeath,,withthedecayofvitality,wearinessincreases,,knowingthatotherswillcarryonwhatIcannolongerdoandcontentinthethoughtthatwhatwaspossiblehasbeendone.
从心理学上来讲，在老年时期要防止这样两种危险。第一是过分沉湎于过去。生活在过去之中，为流逝的好时光而后悔，或因朋友作古而痛苦，这些都是没有什么用处的。人的思想应该朝着未来，朝着还可以有所作为的方面。这并不是容易做到的，因为一个人的过去是一份不断加重的负担。老年人很容易认为过去的情感比现在鲜活生动，过去的思想比现在敏锐。如果事情真是这样，就不要想它了，不想这件事，就不会觉得自己真的老了。
另外一件要避免的事情是过于依附年轻人，渴望从他们的活力中汲取力量。当你的孩子们已经长大，他们就要过属于自己的生活，如果你还是像小时候那样对他们关心备至，就可能成为他们的负担，除非他们感情麻木。
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